Soul Mate Sunday ~ Words That Speak To My Soul

As an author, words are a passion of mine. In my search for my soul mate, I have encountered some men who cannot grasp the power and energy of the English language. When messaging or speaking to me they tend to respond in one-liners or as if they were speaking to one of their beer buddies.


These men tend to use the same tired old pick-up lines to all they meet. What they fail to understand is that I am not one to fall for these, and they are a turn off to me. 


When looking for my soul mate, there has to be chemistry. Chemistry is more than outward appearances. There has to be genuine communication that comes from the heart.


When I find the one whose words speak to my soul, then I will know I have found my other half. My soul mate!

Soul Mate Sunday ~ No Wimps or Jerks Need Apply

According to some sources, a soul mate is someone who shares one's interests and values and is agreeable and supportive. There's certainly nothing wrong with that.


As a creative spirit, I need someone who not only does not suppress or stifle my creativity, but who would never dream of doing so.


However, I believe for long term success in any relationship, I also need someone who will be honest, strong, mature, and secure enough to call me on my bullshit. Yes, you heard me right!


While I do not need some obnoxious jerk in my life, neither do I want some wimpy yes man. The secret, of course, lies not only in what a man says, but how he says it, when, where, and why.


A man who is not afraid to speak his mind, share his truth and himself with me, and risk my wrath is well worth my time and trouble. This is a man who cares and is intelligent enough to actually communicate.


His courage and honesty assures me that he is there for the duration and there because he wants to be with me. His caring enough to stand up to me also shows me that he has taken the time to know me, and to say what he feels he need to with the confidence that I will respect him for it. If he knows me well enough, we may both even laugh about it.


It also encourages me to open up and trust him more and to reveal and yield more of myself to him and to the relationship. 


Men who are too readily agreeable with everything I say and do are a red flag for me. Upon consideration, I have to wonder if they are truly listening and understanding me or just rushing to play nice for some ulterior motive. This is insulting, in that they think I am some dumb blonde who can be flattered into their beds or manipulated out of my hard earned money. Not likely Bubba!


Even worse are those who seem uber agreeable out of apparent apathy. They don't seem to care enough to question or call my bluff on anything. I call them zombie dates. They walk and talk, but have no apparent spirit or passion.


While I certainly don't want an argumentative and churlish brute that never sees or appreciates the good in me, neither do I desire some phony or tentative partner to share my life and love.


Politeness and courtesy are a part of me, but I walk on eggshells for no man. Neither do I want or expect a man to behave that way with me. 


Life is too short not to live honestly, sincerely, and with passion. 


Have I said that already? Well, it's still true!

Soul Mate Sunday ~ What is a Soul Mate?

Each has their own definition of a soul mate, depending on their needs and wants. 


To me a soul mate is just what the words imply. A soul mate means finding the one who is the other half of my soul, one that completes me. That does not mean I am incomplete without one. No! Not at all. It’s simply means the one who unleashes my passion, brings out the very best in me, and who is not afraid to let me be me.


My soul mate is one who understands me, is supportive of my work, and knows the love and respect given to me is returned to him.


Where I come from, a soul mate is someone you'd take a bullet for.


What does the term soul mate mean to you?


My Heart
By Heaven O'Shey


My heart is precious 
Filled with compassion
With generosity
With love 
While it has been
Deceived
Betrayed
Broken
Know that 
It becomes
Stronger
Resilient 
Yet guarded 
My heart awaits
For its mate
The one who is appreciative
Of all it has to give
Who will cherish it 
For my heart is more valuable than gold

My Heart can be found in A Sensual Thought available at Amazon 

Soul Mate Sunday ~ All the Frogs I’ve Known Before

A friend and I are doing our soul mate search at the same time, hoping to find ours. The other day we were discussing all the frogs we have met in the past and the nicknames we have given them to make us laugh and keep us from crying.

So travel with us down memory lane as we recount the traits of our frogs, which might remind you of yours. 

The first house on the left next to the lake belongs to Majesty. Majesty is educated and functions well in the business world. Socially, he seeks out younger women who are generally unsuccessful in life and careers. He calls himself a rescuer, but in actuality, he is an enabler and encourages the dependence of these women upon him.

Around the bend to the right of the lane is the home of Precious. He is an arrogant and somewhat kinky fellow. Precious also likes to bark out orders on a date and doesn’t seem to understand that not everyone works for him.

Turning more towards the right we come to Big Gun’s house. Big Gun, while intelligent and well-mannered can disappear from a woman’s life without a trace.

Crossing the bridge, we turn left onto a road leading to Lucky Charm’s house. Here lives another smart man who talks a good game, yet has no follow through. 

Following the lake to the right, we come across Bunny Fu Fu’s home. This is a creative man who enjoys being cryptic and ambiguous. 

Although men are all different, these frogs have certain things in common. They are all insecure, easily threatened by strong intelligent independent women, unable to tell the truth, incapable of admitting their faults, and most importantly cannot commit.

We are not men haters. Otherwise, we would be content to live alone rather than seeking our soul mates.

My sister, Shey’s  advice to men is summed up best in Winter of Life.

Winter of Life

By Shey

As hair turns gray 
Just as the leaves of the trees, turn red
Skin is not as supple as it once was
Like forgotten fruit
Sitting in a chair 
Reflecting on life
Tales recounted 
Like howls of the wind
All the times had
Happy and sad
Living in the moment
Reckless and abandonment 
Love could wait until the morrow
Now in the winter of life
Looking at the empty chair across the room
Regretting 
No one is sitting in it

Winter of Life can be found in Murals of Lust.

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Soul Mate Sunday

Over the past weeks, I have been posting articles that I have written inspired by men who are frogs.

After spending another birthday with my girl pals, I have started my soul mate search in earnest.

I made a detailed list of what I want in a soul mate, so the universe will know exactly what I am looking for.

For those who want to find your soul mate, start by making a list of traits of your perfect partner. The list must be very specific not omitting any details.

Cast your vote in the soul mate poll on the right.

Do You Know Me

by Heaven O'Shey

What makes me

Smile

Laugh

Cry

Do You know

My caress

My kiss

Do You know

My heart

How I love

What I have to offer

My body

My life

My heart

My soul

Do You know

Me

Do You Know Me and other heartfelt poems can be found in 

A Sensual Thought

Available at Amazon