Trust Us Gets 4 Cups from Coffee Time Romance

"This book combines an excellent romantic suspense with the eroticism of a BDSM ménage. Clay and Blade are excellent alpha heroes, even if they are a bit too heavy handed at times. Their mistakes in their courtship of Bri make the story even more interesting. Bri’s ex-husband and his cohorts make up a team of some of the vilest villains that I have ever read about. The author gradually builds the romantic tension, as well as the suspense aspects. I have been at the edge of my seat by the end of the story. I really like Bri’s character and understand her need for secrecy, despite the unusually open society in Love’s Bayou. The other characters are also very well written and real. I am looking forward to my next trip to Love’s Bayou."

Maura
Reviewer for Coffee Time Romance & More

The full review can be seen on Coffee Time Romance & More.

Man Up and Dom Up ~ Answer Me

According to some recent blogs I have read on lifestyle sites, in the comment they have received, common sense is still not so common. There are still Doms and subs who toss all caution and logic aside when it comes to a potential BDSM relationship. The same people who would not hesitate to question and demands answers in a vanilla setting seem to feel awkward and intimidated when meeting someone in the lifestyle.

Some Doms scoff at a sub’s request for information, and imply that her lack of trust means she is not really submissive. Sadder still, some submissives believe this line of BS from a Dom wannabe.

Even if it is only a casual meeting for coffee in a public place and in the daytime, safety precautions should be openly discussed and agreed upon in advance.

A submissive can often tell a lot about a Dom’s character in his veracity by informing him upfront that she is checking his references. Whether she decides to do so or not, he is on notice that if there are discrepancies in what he told her, they will come to light. If he has something to hide, he can choose to come clean or bow out.

Any Dom unwilling to provide basic information, agree to precautions such as safe calls, and answer appropriate questions should raise a red flag to a sub. Real Doms will welcome interaction with an intelligent and responsible submissive. 

Man Up and Dom Up ~ Men Love Bitches

What is a bitch anyway? According to several online dictionaries, the consensus is that this slang term for an adult female refers to women who are spiteful, arrogant, overbearing, and obnoxious.

Wow! Why would anyone ever aspire to be a bitch? The answer is simple. A lot of men are not only attracted to and amused by these unpleasant creatures, they actually seem to dote on them. To other females (and some males) the very sound or sight of the word bitch elicits a shudder at the thought of encountering one of these she-monsters.

My most recent experiences have been with bitches who were trophy wives or girlfriends. Generally they were younger, beautiful, often surgically enhanced, and confident of their hold on the man they were with. These women are seen in vanilla and BDSM settings, and although they usually irritate the women around them, seem to fascinate at least some, if not all, of the men.

In talking with some of these men, it would seem they are not as passive and clueless as one might think. Some have admitted to me that women who are too polite and agreeable remind them of their mothers, grandmothers, aunts or Sunday School teachers.

In other words, too much sugar and spice in a relationship is just plain boring and is a turn off for a lot of men. Some will never admit it but will spend more time at work or with their hobbies. Others will seek out the company of loud and opinionated women who challenge and excite them. Even though they may not be able to tolerate daily doses of the extreme drama, these woman do seem to have an irresistible lure to men.

A good lesson for us less more polite females might be to let our inner bitch peek out every now and then. This should be done only briefly and in a playful and unpredictable fashion. Unlike some full-time bitches we don't want to overplay our hands and drive a man away, but rather keep him always coming back for more.

Hump Day ~ Erotic Humiliation by Dennis Najee

Dennis Najee is an accomplished author in the BDSM community.  His breakthrough publication, An Owned Life, was a best seller and a major hit with those interested in understanding the basics of BDSM.  As a noted teacher, his works explain the different aspects of this lifestyle while assisting people to grow in whatever ways possible.

In his new book Erotic Humiliation he clarifies the confusion associated with the subject.

Is humiliation abuse or is it something that is pleasure?  Is it healthy or is it detrimental?  I put this material together to answer these questions and help clear up some of the confusion that exists regarding this wonderful BDSM technique.  We are going to delve into the different aspects of this idea to determine what erotic humiliation truly is.

Erotic Humiliation can be purchased at Amazon. 

Man Up and Dom Up ~ Minding Your Manners

There is more to an M/s and D/s relationship than having hot and kinky sex. Most Masters and Doms require a sub to adhere to some type of protocol or rules. There are also different occasions of lifestyle activities that all have their own standards of behavior. Failure to abide by the accepted decorum can result in punishment.

This is something that should be discussed between Doms and subs, so that both know what is expected. It is up to the Dominant to set the standards, and ensure that they are followed. By the same token, it is the submissives's responsibility to ask for clarification of anything they do not understand. This does not mean they question the rules, but rather ask exactly how they are to behave or respond, so that they may avoid being disrespectful and disobedient.

For instance, not all Dominants like being addressed as Master or Sir. It is extremely important for a Dominant to convey the title or name they prefer. Submissives should be cautioned about calling all Dominants Master, Sir, Lord, or something similar.

Under no circumstances, should a Dominant be addressed as “dude, bubba, hey you,” or other similar terms which might be said in jest, but which show ignorance and disregard for their own roles and that of the Dominants with whom they interact. Submissives that do not take this seriously or do not comply with their Dom's wishes in this regard show a lack of respect and lack of commitment to the relationship.

Those who are owned and/or controlled by a Dominant should defer to that Domniant's wishes as to how to address others. Depending on the situation, a submissive who is single or unclaimed should ask the Dominant with whom they are interacting how they wish to be addressed.

Minding one’s manners can smooth the way for Dominants and submissives and can show the difference between those who take living the lifestyle seriously and those for whom it is merely a fantasy or a game.

Man Up and Dom Up ~ I Am Not That Bitch

Most mature men and Doms realize that people are individuals, and all have their own unique flaws and virtues. Unfortunately, some men are stuck in their past with memories of someone who has abused and betrayed their trust. They use these dark recollections as a basis for judging other women and as an excuse for refusal to make a real commitment.

By wallowing in the misery of their past, they hinder their own happiness as well as the one who is dependent on their love, acceptance, and sound judgment.

Having known some men of this nature, I can vouch for the frustration of giving your all to someone who still keeps you at an emotional arm’s length. That was my past, but it is not my present, and will not be my future. While I can sympathize and empathize with someone else’s pain, I will not take the blame for wrongs done to them by others. Being an intelligent, mature, kind, honest, and loyal submissive woman, I passionately give all of myself in a relationship. If a man or Dom cannot respect and appreciate me for who I am, then he does not deserve me. How can I give my trust to someone too bitter and cynical to trust me?

Sorry someone hurt you Bubba, but I am not that bitch. 

Man Up and Dom Up ~ Master Yourself

It has come to my attention that many men seem to feel that just because they want to boss or control someone, this makes them Dominant. When these same people find a submissive desperate and innocent enough to surrender their mind, heart, and body to them, these fellows are truly convinced they must indeed be Masters. Right? Ah, no, Bubba. Unfortunately, many have yet to Master themselves before seeking to rule someone else's life.

A submissive entrusts everything to a Dominant in the belief and hope that he will have her safety and best interest as a priority. She trusts that he will be mature and intelligent enough to make wise choices and decisions for them both as individuals and as a couple.

While one should not expect perfection from another, and misunderstandings and mistakes are inevitable, the submissive is in a very vulnerable position and has every right to expect humane treatment and conscientious attention to details of the relationship. Her physical and mental health is at stake.

When a Dominant has expended time and effort to Master himself physically, mentally, and emotionally, the formidable task of being responsible for another's life is much smoother, simpler, and stress free for both parties.

A Dominant who over indulges in or misuses food, alcohol, illegal or prescription drugs, or one who embraces a sedentary lifestyle has not yet mastered himself physically. He is probably less likely to have the strength or stamina required for day to day life, much less the intensity of BDSM play. Such a Dom is simply not bringing his best self into the relationship.

Dominants who think they already know it all and have nothing to learn, especially from a submissive, are not only dangerously ignorant and over confident, but they deny themselves and their relationships the potential to grow and flourish. What intelligent and vibrant submissive wants a mentally stagnant dotard?

Demanding, arrogant, and overbearing Dominants who have no respect for a submissive's needs and limits, and who brag that they have hot tempers are walking, talking time bombs. These are men who are always quick to judge and to blame others for their own mistakes. They are like spoiled little boys who lack the tools to deal with their own emotions or care about another's emotional needs. D/s and M/s relationships require emotional maturity and stability from both parties to be safe and successful, especially in a long term sense.

A submissive has responsibilities within a relationship, but the Dominant is always the controlling partner. It can be an awesome challenge and adventure for the right man who has sought to master himself first.

Hump Day ~ Two Are Better Than One

Trust Us by Heaven O'Shey is the first in the Love's Bayou series. It has m/f/m, suspense, romance, light BDSM, and heavy on the erotic.

Bri had no idea how much her life would change when she moves to the Love's Bayou plantation she inherited. After her best friend talks her into turning the place into a BDSM club, Bri decides to keep her identity as the owner hidden when she meets and hires her Master/Manager and his brother.
Threats to her life force her under their protection, in lieu of protective custody. Her abusive past causes her to distrust all men and believe love is a fairy tale. The brothers in their kind and loving efforts show Bri, that not all men are the same and love does exist.
While under their protection, Bri is introduced to the joys of a menage a trois, and experiences heights of ecstasy, the pleasure of pain, and genuine love and caring.
She finds her life evolving in ways she never imagined, as she tries to run from her feelings and those trying to harm her.


Excerpt

Clay softened, and he smiled, “Darlin’, you shouldn’t be hiding. You look too pretty to be in here all by yourself. Blade doesn’t she look pretty?”
Blade moved behind her pressing himself against her, his hands slowly traveled from her shoulder to her ass and circled each cheek then gave a light squeeze. “Pretty enough to eat,” his southern drawl more apparent.
Clay’s fingers touched her cheek, skimmed down her neck to her collarbone. Then, ever so slowly, they brushed just under the curve of her top slowing over each areola all the way to the opposite collarbone. “To suckle.” His lips whispered in her ear, then moved to brush her lips as he moved closer, his erection pressing into her stomach.
Blade’s lips brushed gently against the back of her neck.
Bri tensed at their attentions; she couldn’t allow this, she was their boss. She struggled with her senses while her body wanted to respond. No, her body was responding, her nipples pebbled, and her thong was dampening. Angry with her body for reacting this way, she pulled away. This was not her! How could she feel this way from barely a touch? She had to escape back to the safety of her house!
“Maybe the both of you should go back into the club; all those half naked women had an effect on you.” She stammered, trying to persuade them it wasn’t her that they wanted.
Shaking his head, Clay pondered if his words would be convincing. “Bri, we are not some teenagers that have no control. Our dicks are hard because of you.”
Nodding in agreement, Blade added, “Only you.”
“I have to go,” her voice cracked.
“Darlin’, what’s your hurry?” Blade wanted to know.
“I…I’m tried.” She retorted.
“Don’t think so, darlin’. I think you’re scared to let yourself feel, to lose control and get lost in the pleasure.” Whispering against her neck Blade prodded.
“This is wrong, and I have to leave.” Her hands clenched.
“What’s wrong, darlin’? Is it wrong that your body responds to a man’s touch? Or that it responds to Blade and I touching you at the same time?” Clay’s voice rasping as he asked. Then, trailed his lips along her jaw and briefly brushed her against her lips again.
Bri stepped to the side to move toward the door when Blade grabbed her arm. “Not all men are assholes, Darlin’. Don’t lump us all together.”
Moving a step closer, Clay looked in her eyes and said softly. “Some of us know how to cherish a woman.”
She didn’t reply as she backed up and hurried out the same way she came.

Trust Us can be purchased at Amazon and Barnes & Noble.

Man Up and Dom Up ~ Goldie and the Three Doms

Goldie and the Three Doms

by Heaven O'Shey

Goldie, a mature slave, was confused on some Doms’ actions towards slaves of her age. She decided to get the opinions of three different Doms, the young hard body, the older disenchanted, and the rare intelligent Dom.

After interviewing all three, this is what Goldie concluded:

While the young hard body did want an older slave and had a few things to offer, he knew that a mature slave could help him gain insight and grow as a Dom. In addition, this Dom knew most mature slaves were already trained to please. A problem for Goldie, is that she would be more or less training this younger Dom. To Goldie, it seemed this Dom would be more suited with someone his own age as they could grow and learn together. The one thing that most young Doms have to offer to any slave is hot monkey sex at the drop of a hat without having to wait on the little blue pill to take effect.

The disenchanted Dom, on the other hand, wanted a young trophy slave to show off and boost his ego and pride. With a younger, naïve, and gullible slave, he could feed her a line of BS and she would not know the difference. In addition, he may not have the confidence or skills to handle a strong, mature woman who has lived her life working, making decisions, and knows the meaning of responsibility and submission. What this Dom fails to realize that one day the young slave will grow and mature and learn that this life is not a bed of roses and become disenchanted. She will no longer want to take care of an older Dom with whom she has nothing in common, especially as his health and finances begin to decline.

Now the last Dom, the intelligent one, knows the score. He knows the value of what the mature slave offers compared to the young ones who are clueless to this life and life in general. This Dom wants a slave who knows what it’s like to live in the real world and knows the meaning of submission, service, and obedience. This is a Dom who will not only use her, but will cherish her and all that she has to offer.

Tie Me Up Tuesday ~ Bri's Punishment

This week's Tie Me Up Tuesday is an excerpt from Trust Us.

Heaven O'Shey's Trust Us can be purchased at Amazon


Spotting her on the same gravel road where she was attacked on a few days ago, they hurried their pace and reached her in a matter of minutes, before anything could happen to her.
Clay came up behind her, grabbed her, and tossed her over his back. She pounded her fist on his back, kicking his thighs with her feet. He smacked her a couple of times on her bare bottom, the scraps of her skirt having separated, falling on either side of her hips, giving him access.
“Stop hitting me and put me down. I’m not a child!” She yelled.
“You’re acting like one. Every time something doesn’t go right or you get scared, you run. Darlin’ you earned yourself a punishment, and Blade and I are going to give it to you.”
“You can’t do that to me.”
“The law says we can.” This time Blade’s Dom voice spoke.
Returning to the club through the same door they had gone out, Clay stalked over to a station with a chain hanging from the ceiling and two bolted to the floor. Blade went to the other side of the club to his personal locker. Grabbing wrist and ankle cuffs, on his way to rejoin Clay, he asked the Masters to accompany him.
Setting Bri on her feet, Clay said “Strip.”
“What? You’re crazy if you think I’m going to take what little clothes I have off.” Defiance laced her voice.
“Either you do, or I’ll do it for you. If I do it they won’t be fit to wear, and you’ll be naked for the rest of the night.” Clay’s voice let her know that now was not the time to push him.
Tears stung her eyes, but she refused to let them fall. Obeying, she slowly took off her top and skirt.
“The thong also.” He said.
She complied, unwillingly.
Blade had the Masters stand back away from the station. He and Clay wanted her to know that none of them thought she was a burden. Neither did they blame her for the criminal’s behavior encroaching on their playtime.
Presenting wrist cuffs to Clay, Blade knelt down and attached the ankle cuffs then a spreader bar securing them to the floor chains. Clay fastened her wrist cuffs to the overhead chain checking her circulation.
Blade and Clay stood in front so she could see them.
“Do you know why you are strung up?” Watching her closely Blade asked.
“You have predilections for naked women.” She anathematized.
“True, I like having my subs naked. However, you accepted our protection and gave your submission to us freely. That edict is our responsibility to keep you safe and do whatever we want or see fit to ensure your safety.” Clay kept his voice controlled, as he stepped closer and took her chin angling it to face him. He really wanted to grab her by the shoulders and shake some sense into her. She had deliberately put herself in danger, and willful disobedience is a punishable offense.

Man Up and Dom Up ~ Wannabes

Man Up and Dom Up ~Wannabes

by Heaven O'Shey

Just because someone is male does not make him a real man, much less a Dom or a Master. Wannabes come in all ages, shapes, races, and sizes.

Some men have heard or read a little about BDSM, and seem to consider it the perfect way to find a sweet submissive woman to serve their every need, with some hot kinky sex thrown in as a bonus. As annoying as they can be, these desperate and persistent souls are not the really dangerous ones out there. True enough, their enthusiasm and lack of knowledge can get them in over their head in a hurry. Domly ignorance in BDSM can have serious consequences for a submissive. (More about this in a future post.)

One should beware of overly eager men, vanilla or lifestyle, which want to cam and meet before even taking time to meet a woman. A woman should also avoid persistent men who cannot take no for an answer when messaging them. It is unlikely that such men will accept or respect a “No,” a safeword, or a limit in real life.

Among the false Doms or wannabes lurk the truly malevolent ones. These are psychos who hope to lure unsuspecting women into dangerous situations, which can result in drugging, captivity, rape, injury, and even death.

BDSM involves consensual submission and slavery and should never be confused with nonconsensual slavery and human trafficking. Being in contact with a man who calls himself a Dominant does not mean a woman forfeits her freedom, especially her freedom of choice.

Good, experience, caring, Dominant men do exist. A woman should never settle for less. A submissive woman should take time and care to expect and require answers to her questions.

Communication and time are essential for sorting out the real Doms from the wannabes.

Man Up and Dom Up ~ Mistakes

Man Up and Dom Up ~ Mistakes

by Heaven O'Shey

The pressure of being responsible for another’s safety, well-being, and even life, as well as living up to the expectations of others, can be highly stressful. Being only human, Doms can succumb to the stress and make mistakes just as any human might do under such circumstances.

The temptation to ignore or deny these mistakes is one of pride and ego, and Doms must strive to overcome this strong impulse.

Admission of being human and capable of faults or mistakes is not an indication of weakness. Rather, it is a sign of strength. Unacknowledged mistakes cannot be properly dealt with or successfully corrected.

The mature and experienced Dom realizes that the importance of honesty and correcting mistakes is as crucial in personal matters as it is in professional ones. He does not seek to blame others for his mistakes, and even assumes responsibility for their errors when he is in charge and in control. He considers this to be part of his role as the dominant partner in a couple. The Dom seeks to adjust his explanations, guidance, and direction rather than assigning blame and punishment.

When the Dom chooses to “Man Up and Dom Up” he gains the respect and admiration of his submissive. 

Man Up and Dom Up ~ Expectations

Man Up and Dom Up ~ Expectations
by Heaven O’Shey

A real Dom will not tailor his performance and behavior to meet expectations of society, the lifestyle, or his partner. Rather, he will strive to exceed all expectations as he continues to learn and grow.

By the same token, he will not simply state his expectation to his submissive, but will patiently lead, teach, and guide her until she surpasses his expectations in her own growth and evolution.

His consistency, firmness, and calmness provide the secure and structured environment necessary for her to flourish.

In such a safe and loving atmosphere, even the most timid and insecure sub will come out of her shell and will be all that she can be. Also, a more headstrong and challenging sub can settle down and behave when she clearly knows what is expected and what will and will not be tolerated.

In vanilla life or BDSM, one must strive to assure expectations are realistic and are always clearly communicated to one’s partner.

Tie Me Up Tuesday ~ Unleash Me

Unleash Me
by Shey

Who holds the key to

Unlocking my passion

The one whose words speak to my soul

Owns my mind and body

Knowing he is claiming a treasure

No other can compare

With his direction

He unleashes the woman inside

Releasing the bonds that hold me captive

Whilst holding me tight

As I proclaim

My Liege

Unleash me

Man Up and Dom Up ~ Responsibility

This is the first in the new Monday blog series. This series will cover different character traits of Man Up and Dom Up. This week’s trait is responsibility.


In Trust Us, Lance tells Clay and Blade, “Man up and Dom up.” Lance was telling them to quit acting like fools, and start behaving like the men and Doms they are.


Being a man and a Dom is more than being in control. It is taking responsibility for one who is dependent upon you. That means being there in mind, body, and spirit, in bad times as well as good. This involves taking the time to know another well enough to anticipate and fulfill their needs. It also means, being strong enough to make tough decisions and choices for someone else when it is their best interest, even when it is not in your own.


One that is accountable does not take on more than he handle. If he is not able to invest the time necessary for a relationship to be successful, he will not initiate one.


A real man or Dom accepts responsibility without hesitation, whining, or complaining. Being responsible is who and what he is, a man of honor who instills trust in those he cares for.

The Romance Reviews gives Trust Us 4 Stars

Cozy Reader of The Romance Reviews says "I really enjoyed this read and can't wait to read the next book in this series."
Read the complete review at
http://erotic.theromancereviews.com/viewbooksreview.php?bookid=5547

Trust Us

Bri had no idea how much her life would change when she moves to the Love's Bayou plantation she inherited. After her best friend talks her into turning the place into a BDSM club, Bri decides to keep her identity as the owner hidden when she meets and hires her Master/Manager and his brother.

Threats to her life force her under their protection, in lieu of protective custody. Her abusive past causes her to distrust all men and believe love is a fairy tale. The brothers in their kind and loving efforts show Bri, that not all men are the same and love does exist.

While under their protection, Bri is introduced to the joys of a menage a trois, and experiences heights of ecstasy, the pleasure of pain, and genuine love and caring.

She finds her life evolving in ways she never imagined, as she tries to run from her feelings and those trying to harm her.

Trust Us can be purchased at all of Amazon's sites, Barnes & Noble, All Romance, and other sites. 

Amazon US   Barnes & Noble

Tie Me Up Tuesday ~ Safety First

Safety First
by Heaven O'Shey

Bondage can be fun, but it can be dangerous if you do not follow safety guidelines.

Some important things to remember are:

Negotiations - Know your partner’s skills, their limitations, medical history, and that there is a level of trust between you. Make sure that a safeword or hand signal is agreed upon ahead of time.

Bondage Materials - Only use quality ropes, handcuffs, chains, tapes, or other restraints specifically made for bondage. Do not use the same rope with which you have roped the cow. Also, do not use silk ties, scarves, nylons or the plastic tie wraps, as these can tighten up, cut in the skin, or restrict circulation. This is especially true when used by inexperienced people.

Safety Equipment - Before starting any bondage activity, have on hand a safety kit, which is fully equipped for emergencies. This kit should contain blunt nose EMT bandage scissors, disposable gloves, sterile bandages and tape, rubbing alcohol, peroxide, antibiotic ointment, a portable defibrillator, and an epi-pen. These are just few suggestions. You can probably think of others things based on you and partner’s needs.

A phone should be nearby to call paramedics, if needed. If using a cell, make sure you have service in the area.

Safe Practices - If you have not taken a class in the art of bondage from a professional you should refrain from extreme forms of bondage. You must be diligent in checking your partner’s restraints to assure that their circulation is not impaired. This must be done a minimum of every few minutes. Never do bondage alone, always have back up in case of an emergency. Never mix alcohol or drugs when participating in any form of bondage.

NEVER EVER leave a person that is tied up alone, even for a minute.

Hump Day ~ A Slave Without A Master

A Slave Without A Master

by Shey

A servant is what i am

To friends, family, and strangers

Always helping

Always caring

Always giving

For it’s my nature

Unselfishly

Yet, i long to serve in ways

No one understands

To be the slave i was born to be

Not one without benefits

The One i will serve

Knows i serve with

Love and loyalty

With all that i am

All that i have to give

My heart, mind, and body

All for Him

My Master

As i wait for Him

Wondering if He knows

i am the one

He seeks

Am i not to know

The joys of being a slave

With a Master

Tie Me Up Tuesday ~ Take Your Choice

What bondage materials do you prefer? There are so many options and each person has different taste.

Even though I am from south, I cannot stand duct tape. When it’s applied it is bad enough, but when it comes off somebody better duck and cover.

Then there is the old standby, which most people commonly associate with bondage; that is rope. There is a vast variety of types of rope from which to choose. With rope, the possibilities are endless. Some prefer their rope rough and scratchy, and others like smooth and silky. I prefer the latter.

For those who feel the need for more secure bondage, chains are the answer. The coldness, smoothness, and hardness of the chains can be as arousing as the bondage itself.

Which form of restraint helps you get your kink on?

Tie Me Up Tuesday ~ No You Don't

In doing research for Trust Us, I had occasions to be on various BDSM sites. It amazes me how many strange men who message me and want to tie me up before getting to know me. One thing I have learned is safety first; no bondage on the first meeting. Most responsible people that I have met in the lifestyle adhere to the principles of safe, sane, and consensual practices.

Judging from the profile pictures of some that have message me, the sanity part is highly questionable. The fact that they also look like three-day-old roadkill is not helpful in receiving a reply from me. One wonders if their profile pictures are real or meant as a joke. Some are so frightening you would think that the person has escaped from a forensic psychiatric ward.

Why would they think for one nanosecond that I would even consider and consent to being tied up by them?

Before engaging in bondage, an astronomical amount of trust should be required. Remember, trust has to be earned! It should not be automatically given.