Man Up and Dom Up ~ Expectations

Man Up and Dom Up ~ Expectations
by Heaven O’Shey

A real Dom will not tailor his performance and behavior to meet expectations of society, the lifestyle, or his partner. Rather, he will strive to exceed all expectations as he continues to learn and grow.

By the same token, he will not simply state his expectation to his submissive, but will patiently lead, teach, and guide her until she surpasses his expectations in her own growth and evolution.

His consistency, firmness, and calmness provide the secure and structured environment necessary for her to flourish.

In such a safe and loving atmosphere, even the most timid and insecure sub will come out of her shell and will be all that she can be. Also, a more headstrong and challenging sub can settle down and behave when she clearly knows what is expected and what will and will not be tolerated.

In vanilla life or BDSM, one must strive to assure expectations are realistic and are always clearly communicated to one’s partner.

Tie Me Tuesday ~ What Bonds Hold You?

A man who views the world the same at fifty as he did at twenty has wasted thirty years of his life. Muhammad Ali

As we go through life, we may find ourselves so tied to and tied up in the mindset of the past we cannot enjoy and appreciate the present.

When we are reluctant to leave our comfort zone, we deny our mind and spirit opportunity for needed growth and development.

Sometimes taking baby steps to move past our fears and prejudices can enlighten, enable, and empower us.

This is not to say that we should bow to pressures of peers, society, or the media, or latch on to every fad or trend. Once we have broken these self-imposed bonds and stepped outside the box, we can be who and what we truly are and what we may wish to become.

What bonds are still holding you back?