According to some recent blogs I have
read on lifestyle sites, in the comment they have received, common sense is
still not so common. There are still Doms and subs who toss all caution and
logic aside when it comes to a potential BDSM relationship. The same people who
would not hesitate to question and demands answers in a vanilla setting seem to
feel awkward and intimidated when meeting someone in the lifestyle.
Some Doms scoff at a sub’s request
for information, and imply that her lack of trust means she is not really
submissive. Sadder still, some submissives believe this line of BS from a Dom
wannabe.
Even if it is only a casual meeting
for coffee in a public place and in the daytime, safety precautions should be
openly discussed and agreed upon in advance.
A submissive can often tell a lot
about a Dom’s character in his veracity by informing him upfront that she is
checking his references. Whether she decides to do so or not, he is on notice
that if there are discrepancies in what he told her, they will come to light.
If he has something to hide, he can choose to come clean or bow out.
Any Dom unwilling to provide basic
information, agree to precautions such as safe calls, and answer appropriate
questions should raise a red flag to a sub. Real Doms will welcome interaction
with an intelligent and responsible submissive.
